Friday, March 29

on marriage

One sentiment from a gay acquaintance was along the lines of, "Forget marriage. Being gay is about the bars, the 'screw you' to our traditional families, getting kicked out onto the street but finding our voice anyhow."  I think he was conflating "gay" with "punk" a little.

Another friend made the case for marriage as a civil institution which the Church would bless as in the early days of Christianity - making the secular arrangement a Sacrament and showing how it reflected Christ.  I'm not sure if he was aware that he'd just made a great argument for the Church also finding a way to bless and sanctify the same-sex sort, if it becomes part of the civil institution.

As for me, speaking only as a guy in a hetero marriage, I can attest that marriage is worthwhile.  And so I'm glad that same-sex couples want in, actually - I don't think it harms "the institution" at all, if anything strengthening it by expanding the borders a bit.  The punk-rock sort of gays (and straights) will always be with us, too, I'm sure - those who see the marriage folks as fuddy-duddies, squares, sell-outs.  And that's fine with me.  

Part of youth is rebellion; part of settling down is finding the person you're meant to be with.  What I want to get rid of is the prejudice, the injustice, the failure of government to treat its citizens equally or compassionately.  

For me, if there's already cyberpunk and steampunk, I'd go ahead and call myself married-punk: hack the system to spread around the love and commitment.  Like what you like, dress how you dress, don't just live up to other peoples' expectations. Revel in the weird looks you get from posers who don't get that tattoos and wedding rings don't clash, and that sometimes "I do what I want" means spending your life with your love.  And your cat, in your little suburban house.

Thursday, March 28

on music

     It has the power to manipulate our emotions so easily, and so profoundly.  Anybody who's ever watched clips from movies overdubbed with a different soundtrack can attest to that - suddenly Back to the Future is a gay romance, The Sound of Music is creepy horror, or Wizard of Oz is a drug trip.  Okay, maybe that last one isn't so far-fetched, but I'm sure you get the point.

Now, churches have had hymns to point people to God pretty much forever, but I want to discuss for a bit how songs can affect people spiritually.  Combining a little of the previous two posts, on innocence and orthodoxy, I think one can see that "Christian" music (especially CCM) is an area that shows the worst bits of both.  What has come to be thought of as acceptable music, good and truly "Christian" music, "uplifting" music... it's safe, boring, steeped in religious language, and bad.  Mostly bad.  Thus it is with a little irony that most people who listen to it do so because they think it keeps their kids innocent and on the right path.  And if any musician should happen to break the rules of the listeners' orthodoxy, they are cast out forever, and their music is no longer "Christian."

But that's backwards.  A Christian who makes music is a Christian musician, whether or not their song is on K-Love.  And while I grew up with and have a soft spot for some CCM personally, calling bad music good (and good music bad) does a disservice to all involved: kids, musicians, even your own sense of taste might be called into question.


     I've discovered that the songs that have most affected my spiritual growth were ones that recognized hardship and the ways the world is broken.  These can be written by Christians or not, of course, and the effect can be via the music or lyrics or both - I have a friend, for instance, whose theory is that good songs will have vocalizations that aren't words.  It is that sort of resonance with the spirit that can really cause a song to stand out.  Lyrics are the easiest to cite on this blog, though I may post videos later:

"You got a minute for your son, father?  We need to talk.  I'm so tired of trying to run, father - let's take a walk." - not CCM

or

"One man come, he to justify, one man to overthrow... in the name of love." - not CCM

or even 

"Tell me there's a logic out there.
Leading me to better prepare
For the day that something really special might come.
Tell me there's some hope for me.
I don't wanna be lonely
For the rest of my days on the earth.
Oh..!!" - also not CCM

     What it comes down to is an expression of the human condition, and our deepest, often unspoken, fears and desires.  Getting these out there, whether it is the Holy Spirit understanding our wordless groans, or singing along in the car, is healthy and leads us to a deeper life.  Having some musician put into words what you were really trying to say, and emotionally what you were really feeling about it... it can bring healing to a dark place, and insight to a stuck situation.  Plus, it just feels great, tearing up at Les Mis, or talking back to 2pac ("We DO have a black president!  Wish you could be here to see it").  Listening to music that explicitly reminds us that God is great has value, of course, but music that has been down to the depths with us and seen us back out again... I think that's really what it's for.


*Bonus points if you already recognized the lyrics above, but just in case:  DMX, U2, Weezer.

Thursday, March 14

on innocence, and its loss

     Reaching back into the nostalgia files - I was reminded recently that D.A.R.E. is still around.  I never had much personal experience with the program, but I grew up in the '80s and had friends who did it, got the T-shirts, and all that.  The program operates in a bit of a void in public opinion, which is what I want to explore today.  It has little to do with D.A.R.E. in particular and more to do with why little-kid me didn't participate.

     The aforementioned sparsely-occupied sliver of the opinion spectrum that D.A.R.E. targets lies between the more permissive folks for whom drug use prevention is not a priority, and the more conservative folks for whom drugs are a taboo subject.  There was/is a concern among the latter that talking to kids about drugs would only serve to whet their appetite and might actually increase the chance of later experimentation.  This, from what I've gathered, was part of my parents' rationale behind not having me go.  Besides, I was already well on my way to becoming my dweeby straight-edge self, so I was hardly "at-risk."

     But there's a troubling assumption there, and I think it's especially prevalent in people who've grown up with the story of Adam and Eve and the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.

Is it the "knowledge" part of the tree which ruined humanity's one-time innocence?

     When it comes to drugs or sex, many seem to think so, and I'm sure you the reader can think of plenty of current examples of contentiousness over whether or not to teach or study something.  Usually the argument is phrased with the motive of not brainwashing or indoctrinating the kids.  But, if I may be so bold, often the opposite is true: it is the protective parents who wish to shelter their kids and make sure they grow up in the right sort of doctrine.

     From both a policy and a moral standpoint, though, informed decisions are key.  One cannot be moral out of ignorance, and the chance of hitting upon a just law in the dark is basically zero.  Even freedom requires an awareness of such.  Of course I recognize that parents should be able to determine when and how their children learn about tricky topics such as drugs and sex - but it's naive of them to think they can, especially since avoiding mis-information is even harder than holding back the truth.

     So whether you want to call it "purity culture" or "innocence culture," I think it's a poor approach to morality, and life.  I believe humans, and Christians in particular, are meant to be in the thick of things: as wise as serpents, gentle as doves; in the world and not of the world; and how much better to get wisdom than gold?

          I know it's debatable - the message of the Adam and Eve story may indeed be just a warning against the hubris of pursuing knowledge.  But Adam and Eve already had nothing hidden from them, being familiar with all the plants and animals, and seeing God's own face daily.  Consider also Pandora's Box (another slightly-misogynist origin tale).  In both stories, I believe the point is not to try to return to the earlier innocence - you can't put everything back into the box, and Adam and Eve can't go back to the garden.  But there are things which should not have been forgotten... the search for knowledge is now a process of getting re-acquainted with Creation, and what we find out often becomes our useful ally in combating the perils the forerunners unleashed, among them disease, violence, and suffering.

     For we who must deal with the world they left us, the dilemma is no longer between life and knowledge, or even innocence and sin.  Everything is now imperfect, and the choice is now good versus evil, love versus hate, hope versus despair.

Tuesday, March 5

on orthodoxy

     I have several friends who are Orthodox Christian, by birth or by conversion, and this post... is not about them.  I want to discuss for a bit the idea of lowercase "orthodoxy" itself, not the particular Church but as an approach to philosophy.  You can be "orthodox" anything.

All "orthodoxy" means, from an etymological perspective, is "right (or true) opinion (or praise, worship)."  Sounds pretty good - I mean, everyone wants to be correct in their thinking and be doing things in the right way, especially when it comes to the metaphysical.  Even most atheists will tell you that theirs is an accurate approach and attitude towards the spiritual, and I'm guessing even satanists would be happy they're not deceived sheep.  And of course it can apply to the political just as much as the religious.

Anyhow, the tricky part is in how orthodoxy is defined and redefined as time goes on and cultures change.  And further, what that process means for how the organization handles various levels of dissent from within and without.


     The usual four guidelines for determining a "Christian" opinion are tradition, scripture, community, and conscience.  (And again, most organized groups have relevant versions of these.)  Tradition is just the way things have always been done, or as established by authority.  Scripture is the holy text, though it should go without saying that quoting can often vary in degree of applicability.  Community is how the people around you do things, and the societal norms; always good to factor in, whether as a good or bad thing.  Conscience is one's own moral sense, and the main thing I want to talk about in relation to orthodoxy.

Because I feel like they're at odds a lot.  The concept of orthodoxy often involves surrender of the individual will, bringing it in line with those other factors.  It doesn't leave room for interpretation - by definition, if you find yourself in disagreement with the orthodox position, you are not thinking rightly.  And remember, this is philosophy and theology, not science.  There, facts can be proved and verified by independent experiment, and a wrong hypothesis can be tossed out fairly easily (though bellyaching is often unavoidable).  In philosophy it is much harder to find grounds for objection other than conscience and what rationales make sense to an individual, assuming no apparent logical fallacies.

Anyhow, all that to say, it's great when orthodoxy and individual conscience are in sync... but when they're not, well, you're gonna have a bad time.


     We as a species have a poor track record when it comes to dealing with dissent peaceably.  Variations include stoning, burning at stakes, excommunication, shunning, hanging for treason - you gotta toe that party line, lemme tell ya.  I paint a bleak picture, I suppose, but the general process has been the same over much of history: 

organization is going along fine;
some new situation or idea comes along;
people holding an opposing belief claim the support of tradition, scripture, community;
new belief folks either challenge and win the mantle (see slavery, women's suffrage), or lose and are tossed out into the darkness where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth;
in either case, from then on there are usually two camps - the orthodox, and the heretics.

Often, what happens is the formation of a new church, etc., when the belief systems still have much in common otherwise (see Anglicans, for instance).  Sometimes they still work together; sometimes they become mortal enemies.  But the point is that the identity is now different.  What counts as a "Real, True X" has changed, whether by adapting to the new idea, or by merely adding to the definition a part about opposing the new idea (see the marriage kerfuffle).  It is exceedingly rare and amazing when an organization adopts the position of "either way is OK, you can still belong here."


     Now, you may be asking yourself, so?  What is he getting at with this ridiculously long post?  And I will tell  you: learning discernment is key.  If you are going to be "orthodox" in your beliefs, that is fine, but organizations should be careful about picking their battles, and wary of over-clarifying things to their own detriment.  I understand that you might want to make sure your fellow believers aren't falling into error.  But "circling the wagons" may be unnecessary if the issue is minor (say, previously not mentioned in official creeds or other documents).  

So be careful with your orthodoxy.  There are some cases in which good fences make good neighbors; sometimes, though, tossing up fences makes people dissociate, and possibly even hate and kill those neighbors.